Periisms

Self-determination

The choice is not whether or not to go, but the route to take and where to stop along the way.

Most gains are not attained without a comparable amount of effort.

While it possible to avoid or ignore a problem, a problem unsolved continue to exist. Apply this strategy too much, and when it becomes necessary to face facts, they are overwhelming. It is thus usually better to deal with problems earlier and steadily, when they are simpler and fewer.

Problems & Difficulties

Everything is easy—until you find out how hard it is. Usually that’s when you try to do it.

Corollary: It’s always easy for a thing to be done, when doing it is someone else’s job.

If the problem was simple, it would have been fixed already. Since it’s not fixed, it’s not a simple problem.

Those that have not done something but think they know how, often underestimate its difficulty because they don’t know the subtleties and nuances. Consequently they underestimate the value of whatever is produced.

That things go wrong is not important; things go wrong for everybody all the time. How you handle difficulties is what says something about you.

Fixing Things

If it takes longer to notify the responsible party to address something than do it yourself, just fix it.

If you want to fix something that’s someone else’s job, tell them that unless they object by a deadline, you’re going to fix it. Then, when they don’t object, fix it. If they complain—they had their chance.

It’s often better to fix deteriorating things proactively, before they are damaged by failing completely.

Wisdom is knowing when to fix something proactively, when to leave it alone, and when to stop investing and buy something new.

If something breaks and you don’t know how to fix it, but it’s not worth having it repaired, then you might as well try to repair it yourself. If you manage to fix it, you’ve saved money. If you break it, you’re no worse off and you gain knowledge of how it’s built and how it works—meaning you will be better equipped to choose a replacement. And, you gain skill toward fixing the next one when it wears out.

Finding things

When you can’t find something, rather than looking for it, start tidying up and putting things away. This not only locates the missing item, but fixes the problem that prevents it being found easily.

Household chores

Cleaning the kitchen is best done earlier, before food sets.

Proof & Arguments

Disproving one thing does not prove the validity of a different thing.

Corollary: My being wrong does not necessarily make you right, nor does you being wrong necessarily make me right.

Understanding people

Although many people may be doing the same thing, their motivations probably vary.

Often, there is a complexity of reasons of varying importance for why people do what they do. However, when you ask, they only tell you the one or two major motivations—and even those are often warped in favor of “popular” social answers, that aren’t really accurate to the individual without a deeper discussion.